It's "sleazy" when there is a child involved. Were she 18 (OK, only a year) then really, it's weird, but not technically sleazy.
Except I still think it's sleazy. But technically..it's not.
See, I would say it's still verrrry sleazy at 18, it's just not illegal anymore. Legality is something with definite rules, exceptions and definitions. Sleaze is a total judgement call.
Having said that, I have a very hard time thinking of any 20+ year age difference that wouldn't seem sleazy if the younger partner is <25 or so.
Once you get to a 40 year difference? The sleaze factor may disappear once the younger person is in their late 20s-30s, but even a 60 year old woman with a 100 year old man would seem odd IMO. It's either a creepy daddy-complex thing below a certain age, or a weird nurse-caretaker thing above it.
all I know is that my daughter will be a virgin till she is at least 45, no matter how many boyfriends, husbands or even children she has before then!
LOL! Will she also never have done any drugs nor touched so much as a drop of alcohol? And what if she ends up lesbian, does that mean she'll be a virgin forever?