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Why We Are Here => Water Cooler => Topic started by: ukgimp on June 12, 2018, 08:56:54 AM

Title: How to be Miserable
Post by: ukgimp on June 12, 2018, 08:56:54 AM
14 Step Guide

https://www.alternet.org/print/here-are-14-habits-highly-miserable-people
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: Drastic on June 12, 2018, 06:59:25 PM
Well, seems if I want to take this up I've already got a good head start on a few of these.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: Travoli on June 12, 2018, 09:01:58 PM
I enjoyed the writing style.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: ergophobe on June 13, 2018, 12:50:08 AM
Well, seems if I want to take this up I've already got a good head start on a few of these.

I'm pretty good at #8 and #11.

I have mixed feelings about #2. I think people don't spend enough time bored these days. The second they're bored, the get on The Core find themselves reading articles about misery and testing how they stack up, listing which ones apply to them and such. It's pathetic.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: Brad on June 13, 2018, 02:55:39 AM
All you have to do is read the news and you will feel miserable fast.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: ukgimp on June 13, 2018, 09:34:38 AM
Don't read or watch the news. Utter shite most of it.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: littleman on June 13, 2018, 04:13:03 PM
Yeah, I started a thread last year about tuning out.  I think there is a real risk of getting too wrapped up in things beyond your control and not tending enough to the things you can.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: Drastic on June 13, 2018, 04:51:50 PM
#5 bigtime, but not people I know, just the general public. Still think I'm right though.

#9 has always been my go-to excuse for just about anything.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: ergophobe on June 13, 2018, 05:04:20 PM
Yeah, I started a thread last year about tuning out.

Yes. Thank you for that thread.

I had already been off Facebook for about a year when you posted that, but was still pretty much uncontrolled in my news reading. But I think that thread helped get me out of the habit, not so much as a resolution, but as a little thing to think about when I found myself bored and going to Feedly and... well there you go... I forgot the name of the other app! Also cut way, way back on my podcast listening and spend a lot more time while driving or cleaning the house just letting my mind wander like I did all the time before the internet!

I subscribe to a couple of weekly news magazines and have pretty much stopped reading news online except links that are posted here or that friends email to me. If something comes up, I do get online and look it up sometimes, but rarely.

Not sure it has made me any more or less miserable, but I do like
 - having more time to be bored and ponder and process
 - not feeling that twitch like maybe something happened and I should be checking my news feeds.

But at the same time, for the first time in my life, I actually went door to door campaigning for a candidate and did some email/phone strongarming of friends for another. Both lost (one by much much less than 1% in a heartbreaker). But it seems more productive than reading and lamenting, as you say...

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risk of getting too wrapped up in things beyond your control

I can't control an election.... YET But I do feel more grounded taking actual action with real people, often face to face, rather than just reading the news and getting sad and upset.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: littleman on June 14, 2018, 12:29:01 AM
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Not sure it has made me any more or less miserable, but I do like
 - having more time to be bored and ponder and process
 - not feeling that twitch like maybe something happened and I should be checking my news feeds.

Those sound like worthy reasons for the changes to me.

Regarding your last point, maybe control should be replaced with influence.
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: Brad on June 14, 2018, 01:10:42 AM
It's worth getting involved in local government, even if it is just attending the meetings and occasionally commenting.  It ain't sexy like National and state politics but you have a heck of a lot more influence and weight locally.  And it can be frustrating, but it's about getting a sewer line replaced rather than who's pissing off all of Canada.  You learn what a thankless job it is for a part time elected official, all the Federal and State paperwork and mandates they have to slog through just to get the simplest things done.  But slowly, things get done. Tangible things that effect you and your family in the most immediate way.  It's worth doing.

 
Title: Re: How to be Miserable
Post by: ergophobe on June 14, 2018, 02:19:05 AM
It's worth getting involved in local government

You have mentioned that in the past, and I definitely agree.

I do next to nothing on national-level issues. I want to do more around climate change because I think it is the apex issue that, if not solved, solving all other issues will be moot. But national action is so abstract that I find it hard to stay motivated.

By contrast, I'm quite involved in local issues. Your votes and actions count for so much locally. It feels like you're actually doing something.

The other thing is that in a small community like ours, your "enemies" are quite likely your friends too and almost certainly friends of friends. So you have the chance to divide over an issue and discuss it over a beer. Very good for combating #5 on the original list.