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I've just joined an online dating group on facebook called "The Burned Haystack Dating Method" and it's actually giving me some hope. It teaches you how to use the apps to find what you want.
The apps are designed to keep you swiping and swiping and interacting with them, not to actually find someone. So, instead of "swiping left" which will, after some time, feed you the same people you've seen in the past only to have to swipe left again to get them out of the list, you have to BLOCK that person so you never see them again.
Soon, you will get to a point where there is nobody in the queue to look at. But then, there are always new people joining every day.
The theory is, in order to find a needle in a haystack, you have to burn the haystack down, because the needle won't burn.
I hope so much the app developers don't disallow blocking people because weeding through the BS is exhausting.
The person who started the Burned Haystack method is an English professor and goes into Rhetorical Analysis. What the words actually MEAN when people say them and what kind of behaviors you can infer from them. Much of what we say is subconscious.
Here's a link:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5EAbbIuHgE/
