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You all have any goals for 2023?
« on: December 04, 2022, 10:14:50 PM »
I have two:

Increase my revenue

Push my PHP 8 skills up

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #1 on: December 05, 2022, 12:31:39 AM »
1. Travel for reasons other than visiting our families (whom we love and love to see, but sometimes it's nice to go somewhere just for the sake of going, which we rarely do these days).

2. Find more goals

The second one sounds like a joke, but it really isn't. For most of my life, I've had a project or two with a 2-4 year end point or major milestone. They have usually overlapped so that I was along in the next one before the last one was done. It's a frequent topic of conversation between a friend and I who have cycled out of the big projects that kept us going for years (publishing books, me history and him climbing guidebooks). A common conversation starter between us is, "Any progress on finding the next big thing?" So far, not really.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #2 on: December 05, 2022, 02:48:44 AM »
Oh...

3. Write more.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #3 on: December 05, 2022, 07:17:28 AM »
Jeez, not thought. I should.

Thanks for the nudge:

1. Stay Alive.
2. Get back in control....

The last few years (Covid) I really have not been in control of my destiny.  Maybe I was just kidding myself that I was before, but I felt like I was.  I would like that feeling back!
"Interesting times" are certainly that, and that's where we are.

so I will try one I would have picked in say 2019...

3. complete a triathlon.

There.. .said it. Not done one for so long it seems like a huge thing again.


LM, I think your 1 is a part of my control. I just don't know where retail is going, and I depend on it.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #4 on: December 05, 2022, 06:49:49 PM »
LM - the rationale for #1 is obvious. For #2, do you have a particular project in mind? And are you trying to make the transition from PHP7 to PHP8 or from Python (in the past I thought you were mostly trying to bump up the Python skills).

My programming skills have become atrocious - not just outdated, but also forgot so much. But short of a big project that really motivates me, it's hard to just study. I do enjoy big projects with flexible deadlines (hard deadlines makes learning new things and stretching skills way too stressful).

Rupert - sorry to hear that. You've been around long enough that I know you have a good perspective, so I don't know if this will be helpful in any way, but here goes...

When I've felt that overwhleming loss of control, I have found setting very small goals and celebrating tiny victories to be helpful.

Though not currently, for very long periods (years at a time when feeling really out of control), I have set weekly goals and I always made some of them stupidly easy. Do the dishes. Kiss my wife. Go for one run, any distance, write one page, make one phone call related to X, etc. I found that being able to plan and rack up victories *helps*.

It doesn't *solve* a root problem. If you can't pay the bills or you were way too optimistic on deadlines, there's no cheap hack that makes that less stressful. Sometimes you have to just all out sprint. But all out sprints are not a long term strategy of course.

For those times when I feel like I'm treading water or running around trying to keep all the plates spinning and it's sort of working, but also making me crazy and feeling like I'm never going to come out the other end, the weekly goals do two things for me.

1. Give me some wins. Easy or not, I believe very much in taking the win. It's worth it to take a moment, too, to celebrate small victories. This might sound corny, but my wife and I actually have a little dance thing we do for often really trivial things. I find it helpful.

2. It limits me from thinking of everything that I have to do and focuses me on the things I will do this week. And when I finish everything on the list, the week is done. I have no other obligations. I can start working on something that is on the backburner, or I can just read a book or watch TV or go for a walk or run or whatever. My lists are comprehensive - work, health, friendships, etc. There have been weeks where I have had a run on the list and have found myself running at 11pm on Sunday night, but generally it builds space and slack into the week.

And BTW, only create weekly goals that you control. In other words...

Bad Goal: meet with Jim
Good Goal: call Jim to set up a meeting.

I have tried various incentive schemes too. Things like X dollars in a fun fund if I finish my list, minus 5X dollars if I don't. Or for more continuing goals, like your triathlon, I set up a "points" system where each point was worth a certain amount of money and I picked some thing I could not purchase until I had enough points (my current laptop and ski boots were "paid" for this way). So in your case, presumably you want to run, swim and bike. For me, I would do something like 1 point for running, 3 for biking and 6 for swimming, because if they were all 1 point or 6 points, I would just go running all the time and never swim.

Ultimately, I dropped my incentivized goals. Partly that was because I set the points to dollars conversion too high I was spending a sh## ton of money! Theresa still uses that system though. She just cut the points to money ratio in half to get spending back in check.

Anyway, I understand that none of those things change the basics of money in and money out and the wild roller coaster of retail, but for me they help me focus on things I can control and help me make incremental progress even when my mind is screaming that I need to make giant leaps forward (which is just negative thought because giant leaps forward are just incremental advances stacked over the long term).

For me at least, if I think of the big picture too often, it just overwhelms me and seems impossible. The weekly goals let me think of the big picture once a week to pick my goals, then just focus on getting things done.

BTW... there's an analogy in climbing. I see a lot of climbers who are always thinking of whether or not to place more gear. I try to place gear I like, then look to where my next piece will go (obvious rest, obvious placement) and climb there without thinking. Then stop and reassess. The constant attention to gear, even after you've just placed some, slows climbers down and slowing down leads to more fatigue and often failure. This is the first time I've ever thought of that as a metaphor for life.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #5 on: December 05, 2022, 07:34:11 PM »
>PHP 8, Why?

Kinda an insurance policy.  I want skills that can land me some contract work if I need it.   Everybody and their grandmother is doing Python, meanwhile PHP is looked down upon yet powers half of the internet.   I feel the need to dive deep into something technical.  Also, I have things I want to make.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #6 on: December 05, 2022, 08:08:12 PM »
>> celebrate small victories

Yes.

"Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together." -- Vincent van Gogh


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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #7 on: December 05, 2022, 08:21:32 PM »
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It limits me from thinking of everything that I have to do and focuses me on the things I will do this week. And when I finish everything on the list, the week is done. I have no other obligations. I can start working on something that is on the backburner, or I can just read a book or watch TV or go for a walk or run or whatever. My lists are comprehensive - work, health, friendships, etc. There have been weeks where I have had a run on the list and have found myself running at 11pm on Sunday night, but generally it builds space and slack into the week.

That I like.... I am printing it off, and putting it above my desk for a while. :)

It came across worse than it is. We are fine financially, for now at least, although the next 12 months will be interesting we will survive!   The date we might "retire" is getting pushed into the future, and I don't like that, as the next 10 years are a key plan in my life.  I need to get a few things off my bucket list, and I need time and a bit of cash to do some of those. (Some are cash cheap to do, but time expensive and vice versa.)

I think it has mostly to do with the world is changing rapidly, and I have no new plan.  I seem to have to re invent something every 5 to 7 years, and I know now is the time to do it again, but there is no plan for it. My plan is to continue as I am, and thats no plan.


LM, thats the sort of thing I mean. You are looking ahead, seeing an opportunity that might well come off. That is Fantastic.   I am not in that space yet. And as each year goes by, the desire to be in that space is reduced.

On holiday, we always have "Magic moments", we share what are the best bits for everyone. With children, it always brings in a surprise for me and helps cement the good in the day.  We try to do that at home too.
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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #8 on: December 05, 2022, 11:55:27 PM »
I've piloted a new service to clients that has gone well. Make a new brand and company and start building it.

Hoping for a commercial property fire sale.

Start a new service-based business. Pest control?

I want to see my abs.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #9 on: December 06, 2022, 12:42:39 AM »
Rupert:

>"Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together." -- Vincent van Gogh

"Life is hard by the yard but a cinch by the inch"  -- wouldn't work as well in Metric but you get the idea.

I don't think NFFC would mind me referencing a conversation we once had about his business.  He told me that when he was growing it he didn't concentrate too much on the big picture, but instead thought about what were the next two steps.  He kept focusing on that.  It is a great way of getting things done without getting overwhelmed.


Drastic:

Good for you man!  You just don't stop!


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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #10 on: December 06, 2022, 02:29:36 AM »
You all make me feel like I should get off my butt.

Drastic... you are tireless. Damn!

>>insurance

Good on you. PHP is the COBOL of our age. People will still have work fixing PHP apps in 2050. I always iked PHP. I just got too damn lazy (or lacking a project that excites me?). Are you playing with any of the frameworks like Laravel or Symfony?   

>>It came across worse than it is.

That's good to hear. I suspected that, but I didn't want to be spouting self-help claptrap to someone who is falling behind on mortgage/rent and not recognize that some problems actually are just solved with money.

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bucket list, and I need time and a bit of cash to do some of those

I feel this acutely. I barely noticed when I passed 30 or 40 or 50. But turning 60 next year, I have a sense of time growing short. By 70, my mther was quite limited from Alzheimer's. My sister is 67 and looking like she won't make 68 (metastasized pancreatic cancer). When mountaineers fail in an objective, people often say, "Don't worry, the mountain will always be there." In the last couple years, I have realized in a way that just didn't seem obvious even at 55, "Yeah, the *mountain* will always be there, but *I* won't."

So I actually have a number of goals associated with my 60th year, all related to climbing and running. In the meantime, I have purposely put "work" on the back burner to enjoy this period where I feel healthy and can still do things that will shortly become impossible. I feel so lucky to have this slack in my life that I can relax a bit now on the work front.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #11 on: December 06, 2022, 03:52:26 AM »
>> Laravel or Symfony

Laravel first.  Also I am interested in making Wordpress plugins.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #12 on: December 06, 2022, 07:20:39 AM »
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I want to see my abs.
  I think that should be in the "Quotes that hit home thread" :)

Damn NFFC, you listening? He is always so organised and planned :)

LM, I do plenty of inches, both suits and old folk.  So it works well. thanks.  I only use Metres these days when building or doing a bit of home engineering it seems!
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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #13 on: December 06, 2022, 02:37:59 PM »
>I want to see my abs.

I have dropped that idea many years ago. However, this is the season where I want to get in better shape. Just started training again last week.. and now I can hardly walk or stretch my arms.

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Re: You all have any goals for 2023?
« Reply #14 on: December 06, 2022, 03:46:53 PM »
I'm trying to focus on finishing assorted construction-maintenance-remodeling around the homestead, particularly those that help with aging in place.  The recently completed downstairs bath conversion was part of that --much more than cosmetic.

#1 on my list is to finish woodwork, drywall/ceiling spackling, & painting the 2nd floor  (only 2 bedrooms left) to make ready for contractors ripping out the carpet and installing solid vinyl flooring planks.  That project got waylaid by the pandemic.

#2 We're in our mid-70s and doing pretty well mobility-wise by comparison to many of our peers. I've known others who have 2-story homes with the master suite upstairs that have ignored the mobility issues with stairs.  When I designed the house I planned a place for an elevator.  I contacted the manufacturer yesterday.

#3 The master bath is OK as-is but happens to be the only room in the house that isn't fully wheelchair accessible. We *really* like the walk-in shower and fixtures I just installed in the downstairs guest bath so I'll order the same styles for the master bath and put it on 'The List' --probably 2024.